‘Something that nightmares are made of’ - Mother’s grief as son’s killer is jailed
PUBLISHED: 13:16 24 February 2017 | UPDATED: 13:16 24 February 2017
Oliver Dearlove was killed on a night out last year
An act of ‘uncontrolled violence’ has left the family and friends of a man heart broken at his death.
Oliver Dearlove was out drinking in Blackheath over the August bank holiday last year when his killer launched an unprovoked attack, punching him with such force it caused a catastrophic injury.
Today (Friday) Trevor Timon was handed a six-year prison sentence, after admitting to a charge of manslaughter.
Joy Wright, Mr Dearlove’s mother, has told that losing her son is ‘something that nightmares are made of’.
Mr Dearlove, from Eltham was out with four of his friends in Blackheath last year, and was waiting for a taxi home in Tranquil Vale at around 12.35am, when 31-year-old Timon approached the group.
The Heavitree Road, Plumstead resident launched an unprovoked attack, which a pathologist stated caused a ‘catastrophic injury’ to Mr Dearlove.
The 30-year-old was rushed to the Royal London Hospital Hospital, where he died at around 10pm the following night.
He was surrounded by his grieving family.
Mrs Wright, from Chislehurst spoke of her grief: “Oliver’s brutal and untimely death has left me, his step-dad, brothers and sisters all devastated and broken, to be told that there is nothing that can be done to save your son is completely life changing.
“Our lives will never be the same, the memory of us all saying goodbye to Oli by his bedside is something that nightmares are made of.
“Not being able to hug Oli or just to see his face again, or even just receive a text from him, is heart-breaking, it’s a physical pain that won’t go away, I now understand what a broken heart feels like.
“Timon punched Oli with such ferocity that he was gone before he hit the pavement, it was only the act of kindness from strangers giving Oli CPR that enabled me to hold Oli whilst he was still breathing and warm.
“I just couldn’t understand why he wouldn’t hold my hand. No parent should have to make the decision to switch off their child’s life support.
“Timon may as well have used a gun or knife, the damage he did, he then just walked away casually without a thought or care for what he had done.
“Oliver had a great future ahead of him, he was dedicated, popular, and modest, very contented,
a true gentleman. He was due to go on holiday with his friends some of which he started primary
school with, he had a great group of friends and was very loyal. He had plans with (girlfriend) Claire and was looking forward to moving on.
“In the weeks and months, we have been inundated with letters, cards, and condolences, from Oli’s friends, colleagues and clients, it has been a great comfort to me to realise just how loved and respected Oli was by others, we also received wonderful letters from strangers who live in
Blackheath and the surrounding areas.
“Oli’s funeral was attended by at over 350 people, the flowers were amazing and the words spoken wonderful, I would like Timon to realise just what lives he has ruined.
“Oli has been completely robbed of an amazing future and I have been robbed along with our whole family of that future as well. I will never see him marry, have children, or join in our family occasions.
“We have had Oli’s 31st Birthday to get through and Christmas, the space in our house and hearts at Christmas was huge. I kept expecting him to turn up, he only every spent one Christmas away from me, and that was when he was in Australia.
“Timon damaged Oli so badly that he was unable to donate his organs, it would have been a great comfort to me to know that five other people were saved by my boy, and that they were walking around with part of Oli.
“Oli had to undergo two autopsies, and an examination of his brain also. The Police explained this process to me and I had to sign forms relating to this, can you imagine how that felt?
“When we finally had Oli back, the undertaker personally came to see us to explain that it would not be a good idea to see him, as it would upset us.
“I asked if they would dress him in his new suit, as Oli was such a smart young man, but they were unable to and I was given his clothes back.
“Our final goodbye was denied us.
“To have to go to his flat and see his clothes in a neat pile waiting to be packed for his holiday is
dreadful, his shoes and coats, and pictures of him and Claire, he went out on a Saturday lunchtime and never came back, it is like time has stood still. “Justice will never be done, as Timon has a life and Oliver’s was snuffed out in a matter of seconds.
“I think of Oli every morning when I wake and dream of him in my sleep, I see him as a baby, a schoolboy and as the smashing young man he had become, such a gentle unassuming soul.
“He has left a gaping hole is our family and a constant aching pain in me for the rest of my life. I feel like I have been given a life sentence.
“I get up, it’s an achievement, I get on with my day, and it’s an achievement. I miss you so much Oli.”
DCI Lee Watling from the Met’s Homicide and Major Crime Command, added: “This is a tragic case where a young man has needlessly lost his life because of Timon’s uncontrolled violence. There was no reason for him to attack Oliver that night.
“They had both been out with different groups of friends, enjoying the summer weather. It is hard to comprehend how a normal day can end so sadly.
“Timon today begins his prison sentence but the suffering that Oliver’s family and girlfriend have gone through continues.”
Timon was charged with Oliver’s murder but was found not guilty of murder at the Old Bailey on Wednesday, 22 February.
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