Father’s desperate plea for missing son

PUBLISHED: 10:41 09 September 2010 | UPDATED: 10:45 09 September 2010

Charlie Gosden carries a candle for her missing brother Andrew at a ceremony in 2008 with her parents Kevin and Glenys

Charlie Gosden carries a candle for her missing brother Andrew at a ceremony in 2008 with her parents Kevin and Glenys


Three years after his teenage son disappeared a father has told how his life now hangs in an “unbearably dark limbo” from which he sees no 

Andrew Gosden with age progressed imaging

This Tuesday marks the third anniversary since the then 14-year-old Andrew Gosden took a small number of belongings and boarded a train from his home in Doncaster to Kings Cross, where he was last seen.

There were no arguments before he left and his family are completely ‘baffled’ as to why he disappeared.

The teenager has close family ties to the Bromley area, where he visited regularly with relatives living in Chislehurst, but none have seen him since 2007.

His father Kevin, who has launched numerous appeals in Bromley since he went missing in an effort to find his son, has pleaded with anyone in the borough who thinks they may have seen him to come forward with information.

He told the Times: “You can’t resolve anything in your own head because you just don’t know anything, whether he is alive or dead. You’re just in this awful, unbearable limbo and you just don’t know remotely how to deal with it.

“A part of you keeps some hope and a part semi-grieves. The over-ruling feeling is still one of complete bafflement as to what on earth made him walk out the door that day. Nothing that we knew about him would suggest that he would be uncaring enough not to contact us, to leave us in pain. He wasn’t like that, that is what makes us worry.”

The teen was exceptionally bright, he won European maths competitions, read the philosophy of Nietzsche and was expected to breeze through Oxbridge. His family wonder whether he wanted to live an unconventional life and that he had to escape them to do that. From their research they have also found that teenagers worried about their sexuality are more likely to go missing or those planning suicide. They are considering paying for a scan of the Thames to see if Andrew took his own life. If you know his whereabouts contact Missing People Freephone 0500 700 700. Full story in the Bromley Times.

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